It truly is exhausting to judge or try to find pieces of evidence to determine how someone feels about you. I'm learning that if nothing is explicitly said, then my thoughts about whatever matter has no value. Thoughts can be so cruel, to others and to ourselves; only we're the ones that can hear them, (our thoughts).
The desire to know your own self ends all other desires, said by Rumi and I strongly believe in it. Though I haven't completely experienced it yet but I'm on the way. One thing, you can't judge others and expect from them not to do the same. Work on yourself, at least try I'm damn sure that you will find your way.
Omg- like no joke you Always write what I'm thinking ab. like i just journaled ab this this week and like last night i couldn't sleep and i was just thinking ab how judgy i am and how it makes me so scared of being w pepple cause im scared they judge me the same too and what to do ab it.
A possible explanation of why we are judgmental is the relation between our judgments and our insecurities. We tend to judge others based on the factors we are most insecure about in ourselves - whether it is consciously or subconsciously. For example, if I was someone who was insecure about my clothing style, I would judge others based on the clothes they wear. I think realizing and rationalizing our own insecurities helps a lot with being less judgmental of others and of ourselves.
We all fall victim to bias, judgment, and impostor syndrome occasionally. We should ask ourselves why we judge others - does it make us feel superior, are we defending our values, or are we just in a bad mood? The key is to catch ourselves and accept our imperfections.
In psychology, there's a concept of a shadow personality. I won't get into it in detail, but essentially your shadow self is your counterpart that pulls you towards evil, or things that are morally to you, wrong.
Everyone is judgemental. You're right, to a certain extent. But to be consumed by it is another thing. Acknowledging the bad and noticing it there is a good thing-- because if we didn't, we would've been consumed by it, maybe even rationalizing it to be the norm.
This is a good start for you. To write it out, to notice the pattern, and how it makes you feel. This may be a habit that is strong, but not anything you can't break, step by step. You got this dude, I wish you the best.
I think one of the hardest things that ive realized is that I'm judgemental and it's perfectly common within humanity to be judgemental without straightforward judgementalism we wldnt be able to even decided what we liked or what we disliked but I think it becomes a problem within ourself when we're doing it out of a place of hate than a place of love u can acknowledge that smb has flaws but also just accepting that that's okay is so peaceful just bc ur judgemental doesn't make u a hateful person it only becomes wrong when u decide to dictate how to treat smb bc of that initial thght some thghts u cld just allow to fly thru u head and decide I don't agree with that statement or say that statement wasn't very nice challenge the thghts in ur mind as tho that's ur friend judgementalism isn't a bad thing it's how we use it
It truly is exhausting to judge or try to find pieces of evidence to determine how someone feels about you. I'm learning that if nothing is explicitly said, then my thoughts about whatever matter has no value. Thoughts can be so cruel, to others and to ourselves; only we're the ones that can hear them, (our thoughts).
The desire to know your own self ends all other desires, said by Rumi and I strongly believe in it. Though I haven't completely experienced it yet but I'm on the way. One thing, you can't judge others and expect from them not to do the same. Work on yourself, at least try I'm damn sure that you will find your way.
How is it so accurate!!???
Omg- like no joke you Always write what I'm thinking ab. like i just journaled ab this this week and like last night i couldn't sleep and i was just thinking ab how judgy i am and how it makes me so scared of being w pepple cause im scared they judge me the same too and what to do ab it.
A possible explanation of why we are judgmental is the relation between our judgments and our insecurities. We tend to judge others based on the factors we are most insecure about in ourselves - whether it is consciously or subconsciously. For example, if I was someone who was insecure about my clothing style, I would judge others based on the clothes they wear. I think realizing and rationalizing our own insecurities helps a lot with being less judgmental of others and of ourselves.
We all fall victim to bias, judgment, and impostor syndrome occasionally. We should ask ourselves why we judge others - does it make us feel superior, are we defending our values, or are we just in a bad mood? The key is to catch ourselves and accept our imperfections.
In psychology, there's a concept of a shadow personality. I won't get into it in detail, but essentially your shadow self is your counterpart that pulls you towards evil, or things that are morally to you, wrong.
Everyone is judgemental. You're right, to a certain extent. But to be consumed by it is another thing. Acknowledging the bad and noticing it there is a good thing-- because if we didn't, we would've been consumed by it, maybe even rationalizing it to be the norm.
This is a good start for you. To write it out, to notice the pattern, and how it makes you feel. This may be a habit that is strong, but not anything you can't break, step by step. You got this dude, I wish you the best.
I think one of the hardest things that ive realized is that I'm judgemental and it's perfectly common within humanity to be judgemental without straightforward judgementalism we wldnt be able to even decided what we liked or what we disliked but I think it becomes a problem within ourself when we're doing it out of a place of hate than a place of love u can acknowledge that smb has flaws but also just accepting that that's okay is so peaceful just bc ur judgemental doesn't make u a hateful person it only becomes wrong when u decide to dictate how to treat smb bc of that initial thght some thghts u cld just allow to fly thru u head and decide I don't agree with that statement or say that statement wasn't very nice challenge the thghts in ur mind as tho that's ur friend judgementalism isn't a bad thing it's how we use it